Here is short article jam-packed with non-Biblical advice.
- This articles sets forth the worldview of modern family planning.
- Family planning is normal.
- The couple may not be married.
- Premarital relations are normal, and even so while in an “unstable” relationship.
- Bickering and fighting in relationships is normal, but requires professional help.
- Babies bring more stress into relationships.
- Personal goals are more important than babies, even a frivolous trip.
- Educational goals are more important than babies.
- Career goals are more important than babies.
- It is normal for mothers to work, while leaving there babies to the care of others.
- It is fine to put off having a baby while you are young.
- It is acknowledged that if you want a baby, you can’t put it off as fertility declines with age.
- Babies stress finances, so it is risky to have a baby.
- Finances are more important than babies.
- Additional babies take away from time with spouse and the other children; babies may damage other relationships.
- One should write out the pros and cons of having additional babies.
- Spacing out children is a good idea; having them too close together is a bad idea.
- It’s unhealthy to have babies too close together.
- The personality of children already in the home are an important factor in determining if/when to have the next child.
- A couple tries to have, or tries to not have, a baby.
Two statements worth noting:
- Having a baby stresses a relationship – it never fixes one.
- While there’s never a “perfect” time to have a baby, you should wait for a “good” time.